“Bring joy to your servant, for to you, O Lord, I lift up my soul. You are forgiving and good, O Lord, abounding in love to all who call to you.” ~ Psalm 86:4-5
4 parts Humbleness
3 parts Love
2 parts Patience
unlimited and measureless amounts of Jesus
We have all been hurt at one point or another in our life. We have been betrayed by loved ones, wounded by the painful words of someone whom we believed truly cared about us and witnessed acts of hatred that left us feeling cold and empty inside.
Our natural reaction is to turn away, walk away and shut out the agony that an event or action of another has caused us, but in reality it only prolongs the suffering versus ending it. When we hold a grudge, when we refuse to speak to someone ever again, when we fail to forgive ourselves or another we end up hurting ourselves. There is freedom to be found and that is contained within the act of forgiving. It’s not always easy, but it’s always necessary because it allows you to surrender the pain and move on from the situation. You have the opportunity to bless others by this selfless act as well, when they understand what they have done and see that you have made a choice to forgive. This doesn’t mean we have to forget, we need to remember what occurred, so we set healthy boundaries and live our life accordingly. We need to be able to hold people accountable so that although they have been forgiven, if certain behaviors continue there can be consequences. And if it’s ourselves that we need to forgive for doing something that hurt or impacted another, we need to accept that forgiveness and understand that the event happened, a lesson was learned from it and with God’s guidance we can grow and move forward despite it. We also need to seek forgiveness from others. They may not immediately provide this to us, in fact, they need time to process what happened before they can really forgive and let go of it themselves, so be patient and soon enough the release will be there. Know that some may not choose to grant this and that will be their choice. For you, remember to forgive yourself and strive to change.
So how do we forgive? First you will take the event or situation and crack it in half, separating the humbleness from the pride. Save the humbleness and mix well with love and patience. Add unlimited amounts of Jesus and together you will find release, you will find hope, you will find the ability to love in ways you never thought imaginable. Here is a great link from Ron Edmondson, a pastor who shares on 7 ways to offer true forgiveness, click here!